Let’s first clear up a common misconception.
Self-esteem is not the same as self-confidence.
In very simple terms, self-confidence is about how capable you feel and how much you can trust yourself to do, overcome and achieve what you want.
Whereas self-esteem is about how much you truly value yourself – no matter whether you succeed or fail whether dating successfully or not.
In other words, as I sometimes put it, self-confidence can be about how good you appear to feel about yourself whereas self-esteem is how you really feel about yourself when no-one’s looking.
So, do you suffer from any or even all of these sometimes, regularly or even all the time?
It’s something you might think belongs in childhood stories about medieval knights and noble deeds while jousting. But it’s not.
It’s still relevant today.
This is about more than having a coach or even a mentor.
As I explain in this video, a Champion can make an even more profound difference in your life so you’re better equipped to suck-up the setbacks and seek the successes more ably…
Some people just can't work out why they're not attracting the sort of people they think they want to have a relationship with.
This is one simple answer as to why they're, at best, only attracting the wrong people...
Are YOU ever guilty of this?
Despite your best hopes and efforts, it’s like the unedited and unrefined version of you at your worst, saying and doing the things that make you cringe and feel and even look emotionally hopeless.
No matter how mature or experienced you’re meant to be, going on a date can somehow fuse your seemingly rational brain making you fumble and fail – and that’s before you’ve said anything!
You so want to make a great impression and be at your best.
So what most of us do is contain and control what we say and even how we say it so the other person we have a romantic interest in thinks we’re a great person and therefore a great catch.
But there’s a problem.
You’re not being natural.
And naturalness is the greatest weapon in your personality armoury.
It’s the core essence that will make you appear at ease with yourself.
This in itself shows a very attractive sense of self-confidence, and because so many people aren’t natural when on...
Although it may be true that the harder you try to find ways of attracting people into your life the more you achieve in your social and emotional lives, this is not always the reality.
Think for a moment about why this is so…
You work hard to give a good impression to potential friends and partners by what you say, what you do, how you dress, how engaging you are socially, how you talk to them and more.
And although it’s good that you make a concerted effort to make a positive and you hope an engaging impact on the sort of men you want to attract, you can easily overcook it.
This means that you fail to enjoy the tangible and intangible social and emotional rewards you often yearn for.
According to a study done by London Business School and the University of British Columbia and Wilfrid Laurier University, both in Canada, those who spend too much time worried about being liked by their peers actually experienced...
He may be trying to play it cool.
Now, this could either be out of his social or emotional insecurity or a fear that he might be coming across to you as too keen and he doesn’t want you to know, just in case he puts you off.
But, despite a man’s attempts to mask what he thinks and feels about you, he will give off some body language signals that reveal he’s more into you than he might like to appear!
So, here are 5 subtle body language signals that shows he’s interested in getting to know you better:
1. Leaning In: If he leans into you during your conversation – other than to relieve some lower back pain – then this is a sign he wants to tune into what you’re saying AND you…even more.
2. Tooth display: If he smiles at you showing his teeth, it means he’s genuinely enjoying your company. A smile without teeth may mean he’s OK being with you, but he may not be as inflamed by what you’re...
The theory is great if you’re seeking love online.
You specify what you’re looking for so you can narrow down the endless choices available to find your tailor-made potential partners without wasting much time, energy and effort as you might searching in the real world.
But the reality is anything but great.
This is especially the case when you consider that married couples who meet online are three times more likely to divorce than those who meet face-to-face, a study has found.
Online daters are also 28% more likely to split from their partners within the first year, according to the research by Michigan State University in the US.
A study of more than 4,000 couples found that relationships were far more stable if couples met in traditional ways such as introductions by friends or through work, meeting while enjoying hobbies or socialising. In other words, getting out and about to the places they like being – offline, as it were.
Naturalness is the greatest weapon in your personality armoury.
It’s the most unrealised and most unused.
So, how do far too many of us try to have a greater impact in our emotional lives – on a daily basis?
By being unnatural…and therefore substantially increasing the risk of being unconvincing, unpalatable and unsuccessful because we give off unhelpful body language signals.
Yep! That’s right.
This is exactly how so many of us – and yes this may well include you…if you analyse your behaviour – conduct ourselves in our emotional and social lives.
So, whether you want to attract a man you meet by chance at a party or even someone you stumble across in the salad section of your local supermarket, you can find yourself acting and saying things that not only make YOU feel incongruent, but that make OTHERS feel you’re being unnatural.
You don’t progress beyond the Damn It! Sod It! F*** It! stage to...
The sun is out and the heat is on (you hope!) and, therefore, you wear less.
The usual fears and frustrations come to torment you.
Whether you're wearing a light Summer dress or a bikini or whatever it is that can show more of you, you tell yourself some pretty damning things about your body and how you look.
Some research reveals that, as a woman, on average, you're likely to have 13 negative body moments every day!
So, as I explain in this video, how do you overcome these?
You may have a very real concern - and I see this too often with too many people I meet and work with - that you may be at risk from warping your reality - especially when you compare yourself to others you think have what you don't.
As I explain in this video...
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